Disconnect

I’ll be the first to admit I love my phone. I love social media and I appreciate how it’s made building my business a little simpler. I enjoy seeing what everyone is up to, meeting other boss babes and feeling connected with friends.

However there is this flip side to my love for it all.

I rarely post to social media in real time. I actually try to avoid it.

Life is better when no one knows what you’re up to.
 

For me this means that what I am doing in my personal life isn’t posted until after the moments past. Why? I’m too busy enjoying the actual moment. I genuinely appreciate the privacy when my life is already so public.

I plan my posts so thoroughly (usually) days in advance. It saves me time; it saves me staring at my phone when I’m with friends and family. It allows me to take back those 30-90 minutes of social media time each day.
 

Spending three days at Disneyland, two of them by myself...I've realized how big of a phone problem society has.

 

We are by ourselves in line and so we immediately grab our phone to help us feel less uncomfortable.

 

We have lunch and choose to stare at a phone rather than make eye contact, or even speak for that matter.

 

The conversations in line revolve around "did you see what so and so posted to social media".

 

We push our kids in strollers while they watch videos or game on the iPad.

We bring our phone charger everywhere with us, because somehow our phone doesn’t last long enough.

 

I’ll tell you what.

 

I think learning to be ok with silence; loving yourself and being able to start conversations with people are all skills we need to be practicing.


Eye contact, human connection and conversation should always come before screen time.
 

Our kids don’t need to watch a movie when they’re at an amusement park full of fun. Teach them games that involve interacting with humans not a screen.
 

Our phone batteries should last us the whole day, especially when we are at an amusement park with our families.

 

When I was growing up, we talked about real life, real experiences. We talked about our days at school, at sports, at the park, our vacations, sometimes even a damn book. We talked about reality, but reality has shifted and I’m not a fan of this life revolving around phones.

Why is it that once people are alone, once people are in an awkward conversation, they automatically feel uncomfortable and have to whip out their phone? It's not ok that we are teaching one another to do this; it's not ok that no one can hold a conversation anymore.

How are we going to show our loved ones that they’re more important than a device we don’t look up from?


What are we missing when we spend a whole entire day recording what we are doing? What view are we missing when we have to record everything cool that happens through a 6-inch screen? 

Sarah Beaulieu

Photographer from Calgary, Alberta specializing in Weddings